THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, Simon & Schuster


The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up for the mind, The Courage to Be Disliked is the Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself from the shackles of past experiences and others’ expectations to achieve real happiness.

The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 3.5 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be.

Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of twentieth century psychology, this book follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others. It’s a way of thinking that is deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us have placed on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefitted from its wisdom.

This is a truly special book in the vein of Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up but for the mind. Those ready to embrace the insights and liberation promised by The Courage to Be Disliked will come to a deeper understanding of themselves and others, and find the inspiration to take the reins of their own life.

Out May 2018

256 pages approx.


I received this book in exchange for my honest review.




I absolutely loved this book, loved the format and completely agree with most of its contents.  I’m not as familiar with Alfred Adler as some are.  However, now that I know he was considered a contemporary to Freud and Jung and basically believed that past is past and doesn’t affect the future, I’m very interested in reading more about him and his philosophies.

This book is laid out in a discussive format, containing a coversation between two, one of wisdom and one of doubt (a teacher and his student).  The wise character is a philosopher, one who has lived life and learned much from his experiences; and the character of doubt is youth, one who is just beginning to live life and full of disbelief and inexperienced in the way of the world.

A best-seller in both Japan and Korea, the wisdom contained in the pages is truly infectious and makes a lot of sense.  As a society we conform easily to what society expects of us.  We tend to follow instead of lead, often chosing the path that others follow in order to be liked.  Those few who do choose to lead, veering off the commonly followed path society feels is normal, are often judged and hated for their decisions.

This book is perfect for those followers.  It shows how to find courage to be yourself, think of what’s best for yourself and in turn by being the best you can be for yourself, others will benefit from your choices.

I find it ironic.  As I was reading this book, I could hear my parents in my head saying the same things.

“Don’t follow like a sheep, instead choose to lead like a shephard and others will follow your lead.”

“If you can’t be true to yourself, how can you possibly convince others to be?”

and my favorite…

“If your friend jumped off the bridge because he said it was the right thing to do, would you jump off the bridge too just to be accepted, even though you know jumping is the wrong thing to do?”

I love my parents.  They made me strong and independent. With their wisdom, I feel I can take on the world… as long as there’s caffiene to fuel my battle 🙂

Recently, I forgot their wisdom and allowed myself to be controlled by what others wanted me to do.  But this book brought everything into perspective and once again I remember my parents’ wise words…  I’ve cleaned house and now, what a difference.

This book is empowering, if you really understand the words.  I highly recommend it to all.

I gave it:


five star rating


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